Mental Health – Page 3 – Melissa Schlies

Just What You (May) Need to Hear

It is the second to last day of January. How did that happen? I don’t know about you, but 2020 has already thrown me a few surprises. Some good, some really hard, and more than a few I am not ready for—yet here we are. And as much as my planner self hates to admit, there are only a few things we actually have control over in life. We can fill out our Start Here: Dream Planners, and come up with brilliant strategies for how we want to approach 2020. But that doesn’t mean everything is going to go to [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2020-03-26T16:40:25+00:00January 30th, 2020|Categories: Adulting, Balance, Change, Freedom, Health, Hope, Lead, Leadership, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Mental Health, podcasts I love|Comments Off

A Short Pause Before the Holiday Rush

Here in the US, the fall is full of holidays. Where I live, they sneak Halloween candy onto the shelves right before kids start school in August. In fact the way our grocery stores and Target behave, you would think fall is a four month celebration. Ghosts and ghouls haunt us down shopping aisles, until they’re replaced just before Halloween with Santa and his elves. While Thanksgiving squeaks in between the two like a ninja. One day there’s a rush on free turkeys, the next Mariah Carey is singing to us through the intercom, telling us all she wants for [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-11-03T14:45:07+00:00November 4th, 2019|Categories: Health, Mental Health, Preparation, Self Care|Comments Off

Comparison: It’s Not Our Job

Over the past few years, there’s a word that’s been thrown around to describe our generation: Entitled. But I don’t believe our problem is that we think we are owed everything. I think the problem is we compare ourselves to others. Then we worry about what it says about us, if we aren’t in the same place (financially, career-wise, etc.), as everyone else seems to be. I don’t believe our problem is that we think we are owed everything. I think the problem is we compare ourselves to others. Comparison is never about the person we’re focusing on. It’s always [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-10-24T12:42:10+00:00October 28th, 2019|Categories: Anxiety, comparison, Courage, Hope, Mental Health, Purpose, Rejection, Uncategorized|Comments Off

How to Focus on Your Lane & Avoid Comparison

Every now and then, I meet someone who’s never struggled with comparison or insecurity. Or at least, they’re very good at pretending. There have been times where I’ve admitted to such a person that I’ve struggled with an insecurity or wanting to be like someone else, either in my present or my past, and only received a blank look. Other times, I’ve received a confused expression like “Why would you worry about that?” My response is usually to drop it like I haven’t made any confession at all, and move on. When inside I am always thinking, “I don’t know [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-10-24T00:39:38+00:00October 24th, 2019|Categories: comparison, Declutter Your Mind, Habit Making, Health, Lead, Leadership, Learn, Life Coaching, Love, Love Learn Lead, Mental Health, Self Care, Success, Uncategorized|Comments Off

How to Choose Curiosity Over Comparison

I’m a big believer in paying attention. Not just to stop lights or people talking to me, but also to myself. In my twenties, I learned the hard way that to live a healthy life, it’s crucial to pay attention to both our bodies and our emotions. But our emotions are tricky things. Wrapped up with our thoughts, they can direct us toward beautiful and wonderful endeavors. Or, if our thoughts aren’t good, they can send us spiraling for hours or days down a destructive path. In other words, to take care of our emotions, we need to guard our [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-10-14T14:41:37+00:00October 17th, 2019|Categories: comparison, Lead, Leadership, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Mental Health, Self Care|Comments Off

Five Changes I Wish I’d Made In My Twenties

Life is hard. There are dreams or goals we work for without any guarantee that they will ever happen. There are difficult family relationships for us to navigate. Friendships that never last as long as we’d like. Physical or mental ailments or allergies that wear us down or threaten to hold us back. And don’t even get me started on dating or marriage. Only sometimes, we are so focused on these things that we can’t see our biggest obstacle to living healthier and more joyful lives—is ourselves. Where some of our everyday behaviors are tripping us up. And possibly, even [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-08-30T19:50:23+00:00September 12th, 2019|Categories: Adulting, Balance, Change, Habit Making, Health, Lead, Leadership, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Mental Health, Preparation|1 Comment

Love Learn Lead April 18, 2019

We all have a different story. No two people on this earth have the same exact shared experiences, or thoughts about them. It is just not possible. However, we all know what it is like to experience fear, to worry about what people will think of us, or to have our past threaten to dictate our future. None of us move through life completely unencumbered by something slowing us down or holding us back. And yet, People do incredible things. You do incredible things. You have done incredible things. You have overcome obstacles, both big and small in your life. [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-04-03T20:39:52+00:00April 18th, 2019|Categories: Habit Making, Health, Lead, Leadership, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Mental Health, Uncategorized|Comments Off

What Holds Us Back: Anxiety

For me, it feels like someone has reached in and grabbed my heart. I can’t breath very well, and panic fills my insides. From what I’ve heard, for others, their palms get sweaty, their mind races, they even start shaking. All their worries spill over from their emotions into their physical body. There’s little control and it takes a lot to calm down. Anxiety For many of us it is a constant hum in our day to day lives. It’s stress on caffeine. Though some of us have found a way to bring it down to a decaf level—it’s still [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-04-03T19:37:48+00:00April 8th, 2019|Categories: Anxiety, Courage, Fear, Hope, Mental Health, Uncategorized|Comments Off

Learn: 5 Tips I’m Learning About Self Care

It was a Tuesday, and we were in Tuscany. We had driven over an hour to the small medieval city of Montalcino known most for its Brunello wine. Only the last thing on my mind was wine tasting or the way the sun warmly reflected off it’s streets made of stone. I had to pee. We’d found parking in a lot below the wall of Montalcino which meant we had to climb the steep hill leading up to the city gate. As soon as we arrived, I told Tony the first thing we had to do was find a bathroom. [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-02-25T15:47:42+00:00February 28th, 2019|Categories: Adulting, Balance, Courage, Health, Lead, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Mental Health, Saying No, Travel, Uncategorized|Comments Off

The Hero’s Journey

Ever notice that many of our favorite books-turned-movies all follow the same formula? Katniss, Harry Potter, Frodo—the story is always the same. Sure their lives and situations look different, but their journeys, not so much. At their core, each of these stories is about a normal, seemingly everyday person faced with an impossible quest. But why are we so enamored by them when we aren’t faced with the arena, becoming a wizard, or the daunting task of destroying an evil ring before it destroys us? What about the hero’s journey speaks to you and me? All this month, we have [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2018-10-18T18:45:26+00:00October 29th, 2018|Categories: Acceptance, Calling, Character, Courage, Failure, Fear, Health, Hope, Mental Health, perseverance, Success, Uncategorized, Waiting|3 Comments

Just What You (May) Need to Hear

A Short Pause Before the Holiday Rush

Comparison: It’s Not Our Job

How to Focus on Your Lane & Avoid Comparison

How to Choose Curiosity Over Comparison

Five Changes I Wish I’d Made In My Twenties

Love Learn Lead April 18, 2019

What Holds Us Back: Anxiety

Learn: 5 Tips I’m Learning About Self Care

The Hero’s Journey

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