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Love Learn Lead November 21, 2019

Friends, it is hard to believe we are closing in on Thanksgiving already. A week from today, we will be with friends and family, eating turkey and pie. Then, a week from tomorrow, the countdown to Christmas will begin. For many of us, I know, our schedules have already begun to pick up before the Holidays. With all the busyness, in some ways, I felt a little crazy to talk about self care on the blog this month. But if you have stayed with me on this journey, I hope you have felt valued and maybe even, you’re taking me [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-11-20T20:02:50+00:00November 21st, 2019|Categories: Balance, discipline, Good Books, Habit Making, Health, Lead, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Routines, Self Care, Uncategorized|Comments Off

An Open Letter to All My Fellow People Pleasers

Dear friends, I have a feeling there are more of us than we realize. “Us” being anyone who has spent more time making other people happy, than they have spent thinking about their own happiness. Or anyone who has felt it’s more trouble to speak up for oneself than it is to suffer the consequences. Chances are, you are one of “us,” if you’ve ever: Agreed to doing more than you can handle for a Holiday dinner, event, or party. Heard your boss say that you didn’t get time off for the Holiday because you were the only one who [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-11-13T16:33:05+00:00November 18th, 2019|Categories: Balance, Christmas, Conflict, Freedom, Health, Self Care, Uncategorized|Comments Off

Three Ways to Practice Self Care This Holiday Season

“Self-comfort numbs us, weakens us, hides us; it can be soporific. But self-care awakens us, strengthens us, and emboldens us to rise.” —Sarah Bessey Ever since I read these words from Sarah, in her latest book, Miracles and Other Reasonable Things, they’ve lingered in my mind. So much so that I am sharing them here on the blog for the second time this month. Never have I heard someone so clearly delineate the difference between self-comfort and self-care. For much of my life, I’ve engaged in self-comfort, while believing self-care was selfish. Only I didn’t realize the damage all my [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-11-13T16:07:49+00:00November 14th, 2019|Categories: Balance, Christmas, discipline, Habit Making, Health, Lead, Learn, Love Learn Lead, Self Care, Uncategorized|Comments Off

How to Choose Self Care Over Self Comfort

A number of years ago, I sat in a coffee shop with a person I was mentoring. And as I often do, I asked her what it looked like to take care of herself in the busy season she was currently living. Her response was something like: “I think I need to practice self care more. I need to make time to get weekly massages and sit in the hot tub.” Right away, as I tried to wipe a look of surprise from my face, I had two thoughts: One, she may have had self care figured out way more [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-11-05T21:24:11+00:00November 7th, 2019|Categories: #mybodyhas, Habit Making, Health, Lead, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Preparation, Self Care, Uncategorized|Comments Off

A Short Pause Before the Holiday Rush

Here in the US, the fall is full of holidays. Where I live, they sneak Halloween candy onto the shelves right before kids start school in August. In fact the way our grocery stores and Target behave, you would think fall is a four month celebration. Ghosts and ghouls haunt us down shopping aisles, until they’re replaced just before Halloween with Santa and his elves. While Thanksgiving squeaks in between the two like a ninja. One day there’s a rush on free turkeys, the next Mariah Carey is singing to us through the intercom, telling us all she wants for [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-11-03T14:45:07+00:00November 4th, 2019|Categories: Health, Mental Health, Preparation, Self Care|Comments Off

How to Focus on Your Lane & Avoid Comparison

Every now and then, I meet someone who’s never struggled with comparison or insecurity. Or at least, they’re very good at pretending. There have been times where I’ve admitted to such a person that I’ve struggled with an insecurity or wanting to be like someone else, either in my present or my past, and only received a blank look. Other times, I’ve received a confused expression like “Why would you worry about that?” My response is usually to drop it like I haven’t made any confession at all, and move on. When inside I am always thinking, “I don’t know [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-10-24T00:39:38+00:00October 24th, 2019|Categories: comparison, Declutter Your Mind, Habit Making, Health, Lead, Leadership, Learn, Life Coaching, Love, Love Learn Lead, Mental Health, Self Care, Success, Uncategorized|Comments Off

Five Changes I Wish I’d Made In My Twenties

Life is hard. There are dreams or goals we work for without any guarantee that they will ever happen. There are difficult family relationships for us to navigate. Friendships that never last as long as we’d like. Physical or mental ailments or allergies that wear us down or threaten to hold us back. And don’t even get me started on dating or marriage. Only sometimes, we are so focused on these things that we can’t see our biggest obstacle to living healthier and more joyful lives—is ourselves. Where some of our everyday behaviors are tripping us up. And possibly, even [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-08-30T19:50:23+00:00September 12th, 2019|Categories: Adulting, Balance, Change, Habit Making, Health, Lead, Leadership, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Mental Health, Preparation|1 Comment

When We Can No Longer Bounce Back

Non-academically speaking, college does a horrible job in preparing us for life. At least it did when I was there. As it tries to cram endless information in our heads, you think there would be more said about personal care. But in this regard, many of us are left to figure it out on our own. Freshman year, I had a friend who said that he and the guys in his dorm practiced what they called “addition sleep.” In other words, rather than getting a straight eight hours of sleep every night, they just took a nap here and there [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-08-30T19:40:36+00:00September 9th, 2019|Categories: Adulting, Balance, Change, Health, Self Care|Comments Off

Five Tools That Make My Life Better—& May Make Your’s Better Too!

When we got married, Tony had these two identical kitchen knives. As they cut better than any knives I owned, they became our go-to for making dinner. We both love to cook, especially together. So after nine years of marriage, these knives have become well-worn. Recently, after some frustrating incidents of trying to cut steak or even normal raw potatoes, it became clear that we needed some new knives. Tony found some online, and they were delivered to our door. Then about a week later, I went to make a meal that involved chopping a lot of vegetables. As I [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-08-17T20:04:25+00:00August 29th, 2019|Categories: Adulting, Balance, Declutter Your Mind, Habit Making, Health, Lead, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Success, Uncategorized|Comments Off

Love Learn Lead August 22, 2019

Every now and then, I hear a woman my age or older lament that they didn’t have Pinterest when they got married. That it would have been so much easier to plan their wedding if they had been able to pin countless ideas of what to do for centerpieces. But whenever I hear this, I disagree. Yes, there are certainly benefits to having a million decorative ideas at our fingertips. Especially, for those of us who are design challenged. But what I am finding with Pinterest and so much of our online world, is that on some level, it is [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-08-17T18:58:00+00:00August 22nd, 2019|Categories: Balance, Change, Declutter Your Mind, Health, Lead, Leadership, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Uncategorized|Comments Off

Love Learn Lead November 21, 2019

An Open Letter to All My Fellow People Pleasers

Three Ways to Practice Self Care This Holiday Season

How to Choose Self Care Over Self Comfort

A Short Pause Before the Holiday Rush

How to Focus on Your Lane & Avoid Comparison

Five Changes I Wish I’d Made In My Twenties

When We Can No Longer Bounce Back

Five Tools That Make My Life Better—& May Make Your’s Better Too!

Love Learn Lead August 22, 2019

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