Friendship – Page 2 – Melissa Schlies

What if They Don’t Like Me?

I grabbed my bag, quickly looking inside to make sure I had something to write with. I found a pen and a pencil. Then, taking a deep breath, I zipped up my bag, and hung the strap over my shoulder. I check the time, I was ten minutes early. Just enough to get coffee. I locked the car, then looking both ways, crossed the parking lot. I entered the store. Though it was quiet for a Saturday, there was a small line at the cafe. I stepped in behind a man with two small girls. One was telling him she [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-07-16T15:13:01+00:00July 22nd, 2019|Categories: Acceptance, Adulting, Courage, Fear, Friendship, Rejection, Uncategorized|2 Comments

Five Great Ways To Connect With Friends

A few years ago, I remember going to the movies with a new friend. We had both realized we were reading the same book in hopes of finishing it in time to see the movie when it came out in theaters. So, we decided to go see the movie together. The week it came out, we got to the theater really early. As the two of us sat in our seats, in the dark, waiting for the previews to start, all of a sudden, I felt nervous. What are we going to talk about? I began to wonder. Then I [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-06-19T13:11:02+00:00June 27th, 2019|Categories: Food, Friendship, Habit Making, Lead, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, perseverance, Relationships, Uncategorized|Comments Off

This Summer, Have People Over

“What people are craving isn’t perfection. People aren’t longing to be impressed; they’re longing to feel like they’re home.” —Shauna Niequist, Bread & Wine Have you ever wondered what it is about your favorite TV shows that you like so much? For me, I’ve noticed that in almost all of mine, there is a close friend group. But more than that, they all do this one thing: They eat together. One of the most recent examples I can think of is The Big Bang Theory. Though Leonard and Sheldon didn’t have a dinning room table, in close to every episode, [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-06-13T14:25:56+00:00June 24th, 2019|Categories: Courage, Food, Friendship, Relationships, Uncategorized|Comments Off

What Holds Us Back In Friendships

Friendships are never easy. In middle school they’re all about safety, and having people to sit with in the cafeteria so you aren’t labeled an outcast. In high school, the social groups are pretty well established. But there is still the possibility of fall outs, decimating entire groups with one betrayal. Then in college, the whole deck is shuffled and we start again. The good news about college is that if you didn’t meet your BFF in high school, you get another chance. And this time, any friends you make, may share more of your values and be headed on [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-04-24T14:09:52+00:00April 29th, 2019|Categories: Courage, Friendship, grief, Rejection, Relationships, Uncategorized|2 Comments

Riding The Fung Wah With Friends

I can’t tell you what woke me up that day. It wasn’t the noise on the bus, because a lot of the other passengers had fallen asleep along with me and my friends. And I can’t say I felt the bus jerk as it moved between lanes as if it was the size of a sports car, and not a large bus for transport. All I know is at some point on our way to New York City, I woke up to find our bus moving at warp speed down the highway. The world outside was a blur as [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-03-11T17:48:52+00:00March 25th, 2019|Categories: Courage, Friendship, Uncategorized, Waiting|Comments Off

Setting The Pace

Did you know cycling is a team sport? Up until a few years ago, I didn’t. Because there is usually only one winner, I always assumed that cycling was just like running—but with bikes. Then one day, while Tony was watching the Tour De France, I came into the living room to see something that confused me. At that moment, the news coverage was showing footage of a group of riders traversing a narrow, winding road. They were all wearing the same jersey, and it looked like they were working together. “Why are they all wearing the same jersey? Do [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2018-10-08T15:14:32+00:00September 17th, 2018|Categories: Balance, Character, Courage, Friendship, perseverance, Relationships, Success, Uncategorized|4 Comments

Second Hand Brave

“Wouldn’t it be cool if…” We’ve all thought. Sometimes, we’ve even said it out loud. Only often, we’ve followed our BIG, wonderful words with “But…” Then a slew of reasons for why our epiphany, idea, or dream just couldn’t possibly work, fill our mind. Or, they pour out of the mouths of those around us. It’s always easier to doubt. Count the cost, measure the risk, and feel we’re coming up short. Only lately, I have been wondering about all the promising ideas we’ve let go by the wayside. Because we didn’t believe in them enough. They seemed like too [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2018-07-07T10:54:50+00:00April 30th, 2018|Categories: Courage, Friendship, perseverance, Success, Uncategorized|6 Comments

The Story We Have To Stop Telling

When I was five or six, I heard a word I didn’t understand, said in a movie. But it sounded cool. So one day, I went up to my parents and I used the word. Like it was the most natural thing in the world, like I knew what it meant. In under a half a second, my mom grabbed me, pulled me into the bathroom, and put soap in my mouth. She explained to me, while bubbles started seeping between my lips, that I should never say that word. It was a bad word, and I should never speak [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2018-07-16T21:26:56+00:00March 19th, 2018|Categories: Friendship, Relationships, Story|3 Comments

Love Learn Lead February 15, 2018

When I was a kid, the thing I remember wanting more than anything else in the world, was a best friend. I really don’t know why this was such a big desire. It could have been that I was homeschooled for a little while, so meeting new friends was rare. But I have these memories of meeting new little girls, and wondering, “Is she going to be my best friend?” Perhaps, I also watched a bit too much of Anne of Green Gables. Only, this desire to have a friend who knew and understood me, didn’t go away with adolescence. [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2018-07-17T01:03:56+00:00February 15th, 2018|Categories: Friendship, Good Books, Lead, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead|Comments Off

Friendships Don’t Come Easy

One of my favorite authors, Shauna Niequist, says friendships are like breakfast. We think we can skip them; only if we do, we feel depleted and cranky without them. Friendships have a way of feeding our souls that other relationships can’t. They make us feel seen and understood. And in a world where it’s easy to feel lonely, they keep us company. Only good friendships don’t come easy. When I decided to spend this month talking about more than just romantic relationships, friendship seemed like an obvious topic. But I wanted to avoid it. Because the truth is, I feel [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2018-07-17T01:06:37+00:00February 12th, 2018|Categories: Change, Friendship|16 Comments

What if They Don’t Like Me?

Five Great Ways To Connect With Friends

This Summer, Have People Over

What Holds Us Back In Friendships

Riding The Fung Wah With Friends

Setting The Pace

Second Hand Brave

The Story We Have To Stop Telling

Love Learn Lead February 15, 2018

Friendships Don’t Come Easy

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