Adulting – Page 5 – Melissa Schlies

Declutter Your Mind (With This Free New Resource!)

Sometimes, things are quieter on the outside of us than they are on the inside. To an observer we may seem calm, cool, collected. But in our mind, it’s the complete opposite. Worries over a project we have at work or tension with our boss weigh on us heavily. Then there are those dreams we’ve been longing to make reality, only it’s never the right time. Not to mention, our mother, father, sister, or brother called yesterday and shared some concerning news about a family member. Earlier, we took a minute to escape from the world. We opened up [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-08-17T18:27:02+00:00August 19th, 2019|Categories: Adulting, Balance, Declutter Your Mind, Freedom, Health, Making Decisions, Preparation, Uncategorized|Comments Off

Love Learn Lead August 8, 2019

In my previous life, ok about eight years ago, I was a youth pastor. For part of my job, a couple of times a year, I would take a group of teens on trips. Sometimes they were mission trips to other countries, during the winters it was weekend retreats, and for a few summers we used to take over a hundred teenagers on a four day camping trip to a music festival. You read that right, over a hundred students. I am sure there are ministries who have much bigger groups than we did, but it was quite an undertaking. [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-07-29T20:09:37+00:00August 8th, 2019|Categories: Adulting, Change, Habit Making, Lead, Leadership, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Routines, Uncategorized|Comments Off

Back to Basics (Before the Fall)

Two weeks ago, I ran into Target to pick up a few things. I worked my way through the personal care and grocery sections. Then, as I came around a corner, there it was: the back to school section. It was only the middle of July, and Target was telling me to get ready for fall. Now, I could go on and on about how stores are always trying to push us into the next season. Putting Christmas candy out the day after Halloween, putting Easter Candy out the day after Valentine’s Day, etc. But when they put up these [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-07-29T19:52:23+00:00August 5th, 2019|Categories: Adulting, Change, Habit Making, Health, Making Decisions, Preparation, Purpose, Routines, Uncategorized|Comments Off

What if They Don’t Like Me?

I grabbed my bag, quickly looking inside to make sure I had something to write with. I found a pen and a pencil. Then, taking a deep breath, I zipped up my bag, and hung the strap over my shoulder. I check the time, I was ten minutes early. Just enough to get coffee. I locked the car, then looking both ways, crossed the parking lot. I entered the store. Though it was quiet for a Saturday, there was a small line at the cafe. I stepped in behind a man with two small girls. One was telling him she [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-07-16T15:13:01+00:00July 22nd, 2019|Categories: Acceptance, Adulting, Courage, Fear, Friendship, Rejection, Uncategorized|2 Comments

What if I don’t get it?

When I was in high school, I had a friend who applied to Harvard. Then she begged me not to tell anyone that she applied. It was a big, audacious dream that was too fragile to share. Best case scenario, if she got in, it would be this wonderful surprise for her to announce. But if she didn’t, she wouldn’t have to face the public embarrassment of not being accepted. When it comes to pursuing a goal, “What if I don’t get it?” is one of the scariest questions we can ask. Whether we’re applying to a college or to our [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-07-07T20:04:41+00:00July 8th, 2019|Categories: Adulting, Courage, Failure, Fear, Rejection, Success, Uncategorized|Comments Off

Does Your Marriage Need a Chore Chart?

You know you had one. Whether it was in your head or your diary, posted on your mirror or hidden deep in your heart—when you were single, you had a list. Though it maybe embarrassing to admit now, because as least at one point it described a movie star more than anyone you knew in real life, you had one. You had a list of what you were looking for in a spouse. Tall or short, athletic or nerdy, you had some sort of picture in your head of who you wanted to marry. Maybe even down to what color [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-05-07T19:44:57+00:00May 16th, 2019|Categories: Adulting, Conflict, Habit Making, Lead, Leadership, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Marriage, Relationships, Routines, Uncategorized|Comments Off

Slow Goodbyes

Some goodbyes are fast. They blindside you and in their wake leave a painful, gaping hole in your life. But this goodbye was different. This goodbye was slow. When I moved in with my grandparents, a few months after graduation, I didn’t know my grandfather—Grampa, as I always called him—wasn’t quite himself. Looking back, there were signs that should have tipped me off. All the same, when you’re twenty-two and feel like you yourself are grasping at straws trying to figure out life, you miss things. I missed things. Until, Grampa became a part of my everyday. After I moved [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-03-06T20:50:29+00:00March 18th, 2019|Categories: Adulting, grief, Uncategorized|1 Comment

Learn: 5 Tips I’m Learning About Self Care

It was a Tuesday, and we were in Tuscany. We had driven over an hour to the small medieval city of Montalcino known most for its Brunello wine. Only the last thing on my mind was wine tasting or the way the sun warmly reflected off it’s streets made of stone. I had to pee. We’d found parking in a lot below the wall of Montalcino which meant we had to climb the steep hill leading up to the city gate. As soon as we arrived, I told Tony the first thing we had to do was find a bathroom. [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-02-25T15:47:42+00:00February 28th, 2019|Categories: Adulting, Balance, Courage, Health, Lead, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Mental Health, Saying No, Travel, Uncategorized|Comments Off

I’m Hearing Voices, How About You?

“When I was your age, I had to walk to school through the snow, barefoot. And it was uphill both ways.” How many of us heard those words, or something similar, growing up? In other words, life is hard, so suck it up. Perhaps that is why, when I was twenty-two, I was walking through the snow with bronchial pneumonia, to get to a bus that would take me to work. I just thought that’s what adults do. We ignore our ailments and suppress our pain. We “suck it up,” and do what is expected of us. Only now, I [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-02-25T15:45:39+00:00February 25th, 2019|Categories: Adulting, Balance, Character, discipline, Habit Making, Health, Making Decisions, perseverance, Routines, Uncategorized|Comments Off

Love Learn Lead February 21, 2019

Who are the people or a person who gives you a picture of how you want to “adult?” Maybe not in every way, but perhaps in how they parent, prioritize their marriage, make a difference in the world, stand up for what is important, pursue a dream, travel, etc. They could be your parents age, two years older than you, or even a few years younger than you. Who are the adults in your life that you look up to? Who do you admire? Has your admiration inspired action in your own life? Has this person changed the way you [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-02-18T20:51:22+00:00February 21st, 2019|Categories: Adulting, Habit Making, Health, Lead, Love, Love Learn Lead, Mentoring, Relationships, Uncategorized|Comments Off

Declutter Your Mind (With This Free New Resource!)

Love Learn Lead August 8, 2019

Back to Basics (Before the Fall)

What if They Don’t Like Me?

What if I don’t get it?

Does Your Marriage Need a Chore Chart?

Slow Goodbyes

Learn: 5 Tips I’m Learning About Self Care

I’m Hearing Voices, How About You?

Love Learn Lead February 21, 2019

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