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Does Your Marriage Need a Chore Chart?

You know you had one. Whether it was in your head or your diary, posted on your mirror or hidden deep in your heart—when you were single, you had a list. Though it maybe embarrassing to admit now, because as least at one point it described a movie star more than anyone you knew in real life, you had one. You had a list of what you were looking for in a spouse. Tall or short, athletic or nerdy, you had some sort of picture in your head of who you wanted to marry. Maybe even down to what color [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-05-07T19:44:57+00:00May 16th, 2019|Categories: Adulting, Conflict, Habit Making, Lead, Leadership, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Marriage, Relationships, Routines, Uncategorized|Comments Off

Marriage is a Team Sport

When I was in eighth grade, I was one of the tallest girls in my class. So, when I signed up for basketball, it wasn’t surprising that the coach put me in as a center. Only, I liked dribbling and passing more than shooting. I wanted to be a point guard, but my team needed my height under the basket. Being a part of a team means showing up in the way your team needs you, which is not always the way you want. The same, is true for marriage, only most of us haven’t been taught that. Clouded by [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-05-02T21:08:47+00:00May 13th, 2019|Categories: Health, Marriage, Relationships, Uncategorized|Comments Off

Three Things To Remember in a Fight

No one likes conflict. In fact, that is why so many couples who’ve been together for years, feel disconnected from one another: they’ve avoided their struggles by pretending they aren’t there. They’ve let them pile up, until there is a wall between them. The only solution is to do the hard work of dismantling the wall (including getting help), or get out. None of us want to choose the latter. None of us want our marriage to end. That is why, no matter where you are in your marriage journey—from single wanting to be married someday, to being married for [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-05-15T20:38:46+00:00May 9th, 2019|Categories: Conflict, Health, Hope, Lead, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Marriage, Relationships, Uncategorized|Comments Off

Marriage is Awesome

In the months following our wedding, people used to ask Tony how he liked being married. Usually this was from guys he knew through business or from church. And he would always answer with these three words: “Marriage is awesome.” To which, these men, who were older or had been married longer, would reply, “Just wait.” Or, “Sure it is, now.” As if with enough time I, his Cinderella, was going to turn into the wicked step mother. Or, to use the Little Mermaid example, he would discover he had married Ursula, not Ariel. That everything was wonderful because we [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-05-02T20:33:53+00:00May 6th, 2019|Categories: Health, Hope, Marriage, Relationships, Uncategorized|Comments Off

Love Learn Lead May 2, 2019

Friends, it’s May. Can you believe it? It feels like just yesterday we were talking about beginning 2019 strong, and here we are now, almost half way through. I hope wherever you are, your year is going better than expected. And if it’s not, you are finding strength for the journey. Today, is a big day. For the first time in the life of this blog, we are doing a series entirely on Marriage. Beginning with this post, we are going talk about wedded bliss for the next four weeks. But, before I begin I have to admit something: I [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-05-01T13:40:10+00:00May 2nd, 2019|Categories: Health, Hope, Lead, Leadership, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Marriage, Relationships, Uncategorized|2 Comments

What Holds Us Back In Friendships

Friendships are never easy. In middle school they’re all about safety, and having people to sit with in the cafeteria so you aren’t labeled an outcast. In high school, the social groups are pretty well established. But there is still the possibility of fall outs, decimating entire groups with one betrayal. Then in college, the whole deck is shuffled and we start again. The good news about college is that if you didn’t meet your BFF in high school, you get another chance. And this time, any friends you make, may share more of your values and be headed on [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-04-24T14:09:52+00:00April 29th, 2019|Categories: Courage, Friendship, grief, Rejection, Relationships, Uncategorized|2 Comments

Two Things Brene Brown Has Taught Me About Criticism

Growing up, there were a few circumstances that sent my family spinning into survival mode. Being the middle child, I quickly learned to cope by trying to make everyone and everything all right. Something, I couldn’t actually do. But by watching out for my younger sisters, being good, and taking care of things around the house, it seemed I was able to manage things. That somehow, for my family, I was able to lessen the blow. These skills I developed at home served me well at school too. By learning what was expected of me and performing it, I was [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-04-24T13:52:40+00:00April 25th, 2019|Categories: Courage, Failure, Fear, Good Books, Identity, Lead, Leadership, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Rejection, Uncategorized|4 Comments

What Holds Us Back: The Fear of Criticism

"What will people think?” Sometimes, what is holding us back is as simple as these four little words. Seconded only by “What will people say?” The power that these two small questions have is incalculable. Because, no matter where we were born, what our family was like, or where we went to school, we all know the sting of criticism. And it is our natural response to try to avoid the pain. Only what happens when the thing you know you’re meant to do, the thing you should do, or the thing you can’t stop dreaming about—could put you in [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-04-18T14:50:53+00:00April 22nd, 2019|Categories: Anxiety, Calling, Change, Courage, Failure, Fear, Freedom, Hope, Making Decisions, perseverance, Rejection, Success, Uncategorized|4 Comments

Love Learn Lead April 18, 2019

We all have a different story. No two people on this earth have the same exact shared experiences, or thoughts about them. It is just not possible. However, we all know what it is like to experience fear, to worry about what people will think of us, or to have our past threaten to dictate our future. None of us move through life completely unencumbered by something slowing us down or holding us back. And yet, People do incredible things. You do incredible things. You have done incredible things. You have overcome obstacles, both big and small in your life. [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-04-03T20:39:52+00:00April 18th, 2019|Categories: Habit Making, Health, Lead, Leadership, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Mental Health, Uncategorized|Comments Off

What Holds Us Back: Knowing Too Much

A few months after I moved to Pennsylvania, I was in a car accident. In a rush to answer a call, an EMT vehicle driving in front of me, unexpectedly backed up over the hood of my car. It had missed the street it was supposed to take. And, even though I hadn’t been following it too closely, and had braked when the driver stopped, he hit me. My car was a mess. I was injured. I was in a new state, and I didn’t have a clue where to send my car to get fixed, or who to ask [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-04-03T20:30:50+00:00April 15th, 2019|Categories: Fear, Freedom, perseverance, Uncategorized|Comments Off

Does Your Marriage Need a Chore Chart?

Marriage is a Team Sport

Three Things To Remember in a Fight

Marriage is Awesome

Love Learn Lead May 2, 2019

What Holds Us Back In Friendships

Two Things Brene Brown Has Taught Me About Criticism

What Holds Us Back: The Fear of Criticism

Love Learn Lead April 18, 2019

What Holds Us Back: Knowing Too Much

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