Relationships – Page 5 – Melissa Schlies

Learn: If We Could Do These 5 Things As Adults

Do you want to know what I think is the hardest part of becoming an adult? All of us, every single one of us, has been let down by an adult in our life. Whether we were kids, teens, or even in our twenties or thirties—we know someone older than us who didn’t act the way we thought they should. Who didn’t act the way an adult should. Very often, it can be tempting to let other’s failures become our excuse for why we aren’t the human beings we should be. How often do we hear people say, “My dad [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-01-31T16:46:33+00:00February 7th, 2019|Categories: Adulting, Calling, Character, Courage, Lead, Leadership, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Purpose, Relationships, Success, Uncategorized|Comments Off

Lead: Making Space for Change

“The secret of leadership is simple: Do what you believe in. Paint a picture of the future. Go there. People will follow.” —Seth Godin So many of us seem to react to life more than we prepare for it. We do what we’re told. We wait for permission. We color in the lines. And we put off the dreams, goals, or lifestyle changes we know will rock the boat. Even when they’re the things we think about or long for the most. Why do we do this? Deep down we all know—it’s because it’s scary. It’s risky to put [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-01-24T12:57:04+00:00January 24th, 2019|Categories: Calling, Change, Courage, Faith, Health, Lead, Leadership, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Marriage, perseverance, Relationships|Comments Off

Buying Gifts For Each Other At Christmas

Ever notice how sometimes the hardest person to buy a Christmas gift for isn’t your great aunt on your mother’s side? Instead, it’s your significant other? They’re the person you spend the most time with, and who you know better than anyone else. Yet some years it feels like solving world hunger would be easier than finding them the perfect gift. Only, I don’t believe, as couples, that the gift is always our main problem.Yes, there is typically the stress over what to get each other. But our initial struggle of gift giving usually begins when we don’t talk or [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2018-12-05T16:35:49+00:00December 10th, 2018|Categories: Christmas, Marriage, Relationships, Uncategorized|Comments Off

Setting The Pace

Did you know cycling is a team sport? Up until a few years ago, I didn’t. Because there is usually only one winner, I always assumed that cycling was just like running—but with bikes. Then one day, while Tony was watching the Tour De France, I came into the living room to see something that confused me. At that moment, the news coverage was showing footage of a group of riders traversing a narrow, winding road. They were all wearing the same jersey, and it looked like they were working together. “Why are they all wearing the same jersey? Do [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2018-10-08T15:14:32+00:00September 17th, 2018|Categories: Balance, Character, Courage, Friendship, perseverance, Relationships, Success, Uncategorized|4 Comments

Why We Need To Ask For Help

We all know what it feels like to be down. We’ve all had days, or even weeks of feeling low. We know the sting of disappointment, and the ache of loss. If we’ve lived on this earth for more than a decade, chances are we understand pain. But what do we do, when the pain becomes too much? When I was twenty-seven, I woke up one day to the deepest ache my soul had ever experienced. I told a friend that it felt as if someone had shoved me into the depths of the darkest waters, and was holding me [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2018-07-23T16:06:48+00:00July 30th, 2018|Categories: Courage, Health, Hope, Mental Health, Relationships, Uncategorized|Comments Off

5 Things I’m Doing This Summer

Summer is one of the best times of the year. The days are longer, and the weather (usually) is nice enough to spend our evenings and weekends outside. Only, as adults these few months will never feel as free as they did when we were kids, and out of school for the whole summer. Staying up late, or deciding on a whim to go on a road trip with your friends, isn’t that easy when you have responsibilities. Yet this doesn’t mean the fun days of summer are over for us. It just means, we need to be more intentional. [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2018-07-09T21:40:16+00:00June 4th, 2018|Categories: Balance, Relationships, Travel, Uncategorized|5 Comments

The Story We Have To Stop Telling

When I was five or six, I heard a word I didn’t understand, said in a movie. But it sounded cool. So one day, I went up to my parents and I used the word. Like it was the most natural thing in the world, like I knew what it meant. In under a half a second, my mom grabbed me, pulled me into the bathroom, and put soap in my mouth. She explained to me, while bubbles started seeping between my lips, that I should never say that word. It was a bad word, and I should never speak [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2018-07-16T21:26:56+00:00March 19th, 2018|Categories: Friendship, Relationships, Story|3 Comments

Leaving Home

Out of all the relationships we have in our life, our family ones are typically the strongest. For good or bad, they are the people who have the power to impact our lives the most. After all, they are the first people to tell us where to be strong and when to be afraid. To tell us whether the world is a friendly or fearful place. More than anything though, They are the first people to tell us who we are. Only at some point, we have to learn all of these things for ourselves. We have to take what [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2018-07-17T00:53:19+00:00February 26th, 2018|Categories: Character, Courage, Fear, Freedom, Identity, Relationships|6 Comments

Leadership in a Healthy Relationship

There are times in life, where we’d all rather not be the leader. These moments are the hard ones, where everything is on the line. When we’d be more comfortable with someone else making the decision, because if things go wrong, we won’t be to blame. It’s in the hardest of these moments where both people in a dating or marriage relationship don’t want to lead. Where, no matter what they believe about man’s role vs woman’s role, both would be more comfortable if the other made the decision. Yet it is in these very moments where both people need [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2018-07-17T00:57:26+00:00February 22nd, 2018|Categories: Health, Lead, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Marriage, Relationships|Comments Off

Who’s In Charge?

When it comes to love, romance, and relationships, leadership is often only thought of in terms of initiation. In other words, “Who asked Who.” Or, as I have heard many girls say, “Why won’t he ask me out?” “Why won’t more guys step up and ask girls out?” Proving that there are some patriarchal roots that even us ladies have a hard time letting go of. That there is something to be said for a man pursuing the woman he loves. But, after the first dance, the first date, and for some of us, even after the man gets down [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2018-07-17T01:00:22+00:00February 19th, 2018|Categories: Leadership Tip, Marriage, Relationships|4 Comments

Learn: If We Could Do These 5 Things As Adults

Lead: Making Space for Change

Buying Gifts For Each Other At Christmas

Setting The Pace

Why We Need To Ask For Help

5 Things I’m Doing This Summer

The Story We Have To Stop Telling

Leaving Home

Leadership in a Healthy Relationship

Who’s In Charge?

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