Relationships – Page 4 – Melissa Schlies

Five Date Ideas to Keep the Romance Alive

When you first fall in love, almost anything can be considered an amazing date because you’re together. Going to the movies, eating leftover Chinese food, hanging out at each other’s places—heck, even grocery shopping is fun. But what about when you’ve been married for a while, and curling up on the couch to binge Netflix, starts to get old? As we talked about in Monday’s post, with all of our real life responsibilities, it can be difficult to make time for each other. And it can be easy for us to fall into ruts romantically. To count our time in [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-05-23T11:54:23+00:00May 23rd, 2019|Categories: Habit Making, Lead, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Marriage, Relationships, Uncategorized|Comments Off

Becoming One With Room For Two

Do you remember the feeling you had when you and your spouse first fell in love? Not just the warm, fuzzy, floating on air stuff, but also the feeling that you couldn’t get enough of each other? It’s almost like taking that first bite into a perfect pizza. It is so delicious, you don’t ever want to stop eating it. Or finding a book you love so much you don’t ever want it to end. Or hitting replay on your new favorite song, believing you’ll never get tired of it. Except, you have this feeling for a person. A person [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-05-19T13:57:02+00:00May 20th, 2019|Categories: Balance, Freedom, Health, Identity, Marriage, perseverance, Purpose, Relationships, Uncategorized|6 Comments

Does Your Marriage Need a Chore Chart?

You know you had one. Whether it was in your head or your diary, posted on your mirror or hidden deep in your heart—when you were single, you had a list. Though it maybe embarrassing to admit now, because as least at one point it described a movie star more than anyone you knew in real life, you had one. You had a list of what you were looking for in a spouse. Tall or short, athletic or nerdy, you had some sort of picture in your head of who you wanted to marry. Maybe even down to what color [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-05-07T19:44:57+00:00May 16th, 2019|Categories: Adulting, Conflict, Habit Making, Lead, Leadership, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Marriage, Relationships, Routines, Uncategorized|Comments Off

Marriage is a Team Sport

When I was in eighth grade, I was one of the tallest girls in my class. So, when I signed up for basketball, it wasn’t surprising that the coach put me in as a center. Only, I liked dribbling and passing more than shooting. I wanted to be a point guard, but my team needed my height under the basket. Being a part of a team means showing up in the way your team needs you, which is not always the way you want. The same, is true for marriage, only most of us haven’t been taught that. Clouded by [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-05-02T21:08:47+00:00May 13th, 2019|Categories: Health, Marriage, Relationships, Uncategorized|Comments Off

Three Things To Remember in a Fight

No one likes conflict. In fact, that is why so many couples who’ve been together for years, feel disconnected from one another: they’ve avoided their struggles by pretending they aren’t there. They’ve let them pile up, until there is a wall between them. The only solution is to do the hard work of dismantling the wall (including getting help), or get out. None of us want to choose the latter. None of us want our marriage to end. That is why, no matter where you are in your marriage journey—from single wanting to be married someday, to being married for [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-05-15T20:38:46+00:00May 9th, 2019|Categories: Conflict, Health, Hope, Lead, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Marriage, Relationships, Uncategorized|Comments Off

Marriage is Awesome

In the months following our wedding, people used to ask Tony how he liked being married. Usually this was from guys he knew through business or from church. And he would always answer with these three words: “Marriage is awesome.” To which, these men, who were older or had been married longer, would reply, “Just wait.” Or, “Sure it is, now.” As if with enough time I, his Cinderella, was going to turn into the wicked step mother. Or, to use the Little Mermaid example, he would discover he had married Ursula, not Ariel. That everything was wonderful because we [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-05-02T20:33:53+00:00May 6th, 2019|Categories: Health, Hope, Marriage, Relationships, Uncategorized|Comments Off

Love Learn Lead May 2, 2019

Friends, it’s May. Can you believe it? It feels like just yesterday we were talking about beginning 2019 strong, and here we are now, almost half way through. I hope wherever you are, your year is going better than expected. And if it’s not, you are finding strength for the journey. Today, is a big day. For the first time in the life of this blog, we are doing a series entirely on Marriage. Beginning with this post, we are going talk about wedded bliss for the next four weeks. But, before I begin I have to admit something: I [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-05-01T13:40:10+00:00May 2nd, 2019|Categories: Health, Hope, Lead, Leadership, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Marriage, Relationships, Uncategorized|2 Comments

What Holds Us Back In Friendships

Friendships are never easy. In middle school they’re all about safety, and having people to sit with in the cafeteria so you aren’t labeled an outcast. In high school, the social groups are pretty well established. But there is still the possibility of fall outs, decimating entire groups with one betrayal. Then in college, the whole deck is shuffled and we start again. The good news about college is that if you didn’t meet your BFF in high school, you get another chance. And this time, any friends you make, may share more of your values and be headed on [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-04-24T14:09:52+00:00April 29th, 2019|Categories: Courage, Friendship, grief, Rejection, Relationships, Uncategorized|2 Comments

Love Learn Lead February 21, 2019

Who are the people or a person who gives you a picture of how you want to “adult?” Maybe not in every way, but perhaps in how they parent, prioritize their marriage, make a difference in the world, stand up for what is important, pursue a dream, travel, etc. They could be your parents age, two years older than you, or even a few years younger than you. Who are the adults in your life that you look up to? Who do you admire? Has your admiration inspired action in your own life? Has this person changed the way you [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-02-18T20:51:22+00:00February 21st, 2019|Categories: Adulting, Habit Making, Health, Lead, Love, Love Learn Lead, Mentoring, Relationships, Uncategorized|Comments Off

Love: 5 Things I’ve Learned About Love & Dating

The other night, Tony and I were telling each other about some of the dates we went on in high school. I shared a time I went on a date with a guy even though I knew he wasn’t good for me. And he talked about borrowing his mom’s mini-van to pick up a girl for a dance, which reminded me of my first real date with a boy. He too picked me up in his mom’s mini-van. We were so cool. But I can still remember how nervous I was on that first date. Or how I used to search [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-01-31T22:53:33+00:00February 14th, 2019|Categories: Adulting, Courage, Lead, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Marriage, Relationships, Uncategorized|Comments Off

Five Date Ideas to Keep the Romance Alive

Becoming One With Room For Two

Does Your Marriage Need a Chore Chart?

Marriage is a Team Sport

Three Things To Remember in a Fight

Marriage is Awesome

Love Learn Lead May 2, 2019

What Holds Us Back In Friendships

Love Learn Lead February 21, 2019

Love: 5 Things I’ve Learned About Love & Dating

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