Marriage – Page 3 – Melissa Schlies

Becoming One With Room For Two

Do you remember the feeling you had when you and your spouse first fell in love? Not just the warm, fuzzy, floating on air stuff, but also the feeling that you couldn’t get enough of each other? It’s almost like taking that first bite into a perfect pizza. It is so delicious, you don’t ever want to stop eating it. Or finding a book you love so much you don’t ever want it to end. Or hitting replay on your new favorite song, believing you’ll never get tired of it. Except, you have this feeling for a person. A person [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-05-19T13:57:02+00:00May 20th, 2019|Categories: Balance, Freedom, Health, Identity, Marriage, perseverance, Purpose, Relationships, Uncategorized|6 Comments

Does Your Marriage Need a Chore Chart?

You know you had one. Whether it was in your head or your diary, posted on your mirror or hidden deep in your heart—when you were single, you had a list. Though it maybe embarrassing to admit now, because as least at one point it described a movie star more than anyone you knew in real life, you had one. You had a list of what you were looking for in a spouse. Tall or short, athletic or nerdy, you had some sort of picture in your head of who you wanted to marry. Maybe even down to what color [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-05-07T19:44:57+00:00May 16th, 2019|Categories: Adulting, Conflict, Habit Making, Lead, Leadership, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Marriage, Relationships, Routines, Uncategorized|Comments Off

Marriage is a Team Sport

When I was in eighth grade, I was one of the tallest girls in my class. So, when I signed up for basketball, it wasn’t surprising that the coach put me in as a center. Only, I liked dribbling and passing more than shooting. I wanted to be a point guard, but my team needed my height under the basket. Being a part of a team means showing up in the way your team needs you, which is not always the way you want. The same, is true for marriage, only most of us haven’t been taught that. Clouded by [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-05-02T21:08:47+00:00May 13th, 2019|Categories: Health, Marriage, Relationships, Uncategorized|Comments Off

Three Things To Remember in a Fight

No one likes conflict. In fact, that is why so many couples who’ve been together for years, feel disconnected from one another: they’ve avoided their struggles by pretending they aren’t there. They’ve let them pile up, until there is a wall between them. The only solution is to do the hard work of dismantling the wall (including getting help), or get out. None of us want to choose the latter. None of us want our marriage to end. That is why, no matter where you are in your marriage journey—from single wanting to be married someday, to being married for [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-05-15T20:38:46+00:00May 9th, 2019|Categories: Conflict, Health, Hope, Lead, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Marriage, Relationships, Uncategorized|Comments Off

Marriage is Awesome

In the months following our wedding, people used to ask Tony how he liked being married. Usually this was from guys he knew through business or from church. And he would always answer with these three words: “Marriage is awesome.” To which, these men, who were older or had been married longer, would reply, “Just wait.” Or, “Sure it is, now.” As if with enough time I, his Cinderella, was going to turn into the wicked step mother. Or, to use the Little Mermaid example, he would discover he had married Ursula, not Ariel. That everything was wonderful because we [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-05-02T20:33:53+00:00May 6th, 2019|Categories: Health, Hope, Marriage, Relationships, Uncategorized|Comments Off

Love Learn Lead May 2, 2019

Friends, it’s May. Can you believe it? It feels like just yesterday we were talking about beginning 2019 strong, and here we are now, almost half way through. I hope wherever you are, your year is going better than expected. And if it’s not, you are finding strength for the journey. Today, is a big day. For the first time in the life of this blog, we are doing a series entirely on Marriage. Beginning with this post, we are going talk about wedded bliss for the next four weeks. But, before I begin I have to admit something: I [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-05-01T13:40:10+00:00May 2nd, 2019|Categories: Health, Hope, Lead, Leadership, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Marriage, Relationships, Uncategorized|2 Comments

Love: 5 Things I’ve Learned About Love & Dating

The other night, Tony and I were telling each other about some of the dates we went on in high school. I shared a time I went on a date with a guy even though I knew he wasn’t good for me. And he talked about borrowing his mom’s mini-van to pick up a girl for a dance, which reminded me of my first real date with a boy. He too picked me up in his mom’s mini-van. We were so cool. But I can still remember how nervous I was on that first date. Or how I used to search [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-01-31T22:53:33+00:00February 14th, 2019|Categories: Adulting, Courage, Lead, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Marriage, Relationships, Uncategorized|Comments Off

Lead: Making Space for Change

“The secret of leadership is simple: Do what you believe in. Paint a picture of the future. Go there. People will follow.” —Seth Godin So many of us seem to react to life more than we prepare for it. We do what we’re told. We wait for permission. We color in the lines. And we put off the dreams, goals, or lifestyle changes we know will rock the boat. Even when they’re the things we think about or long for the most. Why do we do this? Deep down we all know—it’s because it’s scary. It’s risky to put [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-01-24T12:57:04+00:00January 24th, 2019|Categories: Calling, Change, Courage, Faith, Health, Lead, Leadership, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Marriage, perseverance, Relationships|Comments Off

Spring Cleaning In January

In early December, Tony and I did all the things most people do around Christmas. We picked out our tree then spent an evening decorating it, with Christmas carols playing in the background. We laid our nativity out on the top of our bookshelf. We gift shopped—mostly online. We made our travel plans to Wisconsin to see Tony’s family. And then, we started gutting our apartment. No, we didn’t move. Nor did the time of year make any sense, but as I like to call it, “The Urge to Purge,” crept up on us until we could no longer ignore [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-01-10T20:26:06+00:00January 21st, 2019|Categories: Change, Courage, Faith, Hope, Marriage, perseverance, Preparation|1 Comment

Buying Gifts For Each Other At Christmas

Ever notice how sometimes the hardest person to buy a Christmas gift for isn’t your great aunt on your mother’s side? Instead, it’s your significant other? They’re the person you spend the most time with, and who you know better than anyone else. Yet some years it feels like solving world hunger would be easier than finding them the perfect gift. Only, I don’t believe, as couples, that the gift is always our main problem.Yes, there is typically the stress over what to get each other. But our initial struggle of gift giving usually begins when we don’t talk or [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2018-12-05T16:35:49+00:00December 10th, 2018|Categories: Christmas, Marriage, Relationships, Uncategorized|Comments Off

Becoming One With Room For Two

Does Your Marriage Need a Chore Chart?

Marriage is a Team Sport

Three Things To Remember in a Fight

Marriage is Awesome

Love Learn Lead May 2, 2019

Love: 5 Things I’ve Learned About Love & Dating

Lead: Making Space for Change

Spring Cleaning In January

Buying Gifts For Each Other At Christmas

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