Fear – Page 3 – Melissa Schlies

How to Know It’s Time to Make a Job Change Part 1

You have been in your job for a few years now. It was the job you went to school for, and the one you wanted since high school. But now, it’s not feeling like you. It could be that it's your work environment. Your boss is hard to read. Your co-workers are catty. Or you find yourself looking forward to the weekend more than you ever did in school (if that’s possible). You’d love to make a change but you can’t figure out if it’s your career or your job, you’re wanting to get away from. How do you figure [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-08-30T20:00:01+00:00September 16th, 2019|Categories: Adulting, Calling, Change, Conflict, Fear, Success|Comments Off

What If…It’s Good?

Recently, one night after work, Tony was working out to a video he was streaming in our living room. I was making dinner, and not paying much attention. But then, after putting our meal in the oven, I started scrolling through Instagram. And, as it is so easy to do, I began half listening to the workout instructor as he started to lead Tony and his online audience through cool down. Following stretching and some time in Savasana, he said, “Now picture what success looks like for you today. Then imagine yourself succeeding.” At these words, I almost laughed out [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-07-16T15:37:25+00:00July 29th, 2019|Categories: Balance, Courage, Fear, Habit Making, Hope, Success, Uncategorized|Comments Off

Three Questions to Ask After Rejection

As I shared on Monday, I recently joined a new writers group. The very first time we got together, I was so nervous. I was the first to arrive at the coffee shop where we met, and as I waited in line to order my coffee, I had a realization. All my nerves centered on this one question: “What if they don’t like me?” I felt like I was in junior high all over again. But then I realized, I probably wasn’t the only one who felt nervous about showing up to our newly formed group. Putting ourselves out there [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-07-25T15:12:05+00:00July 25th, 2019|Categories: Fear, Friendship, Lead, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, perseverance, Rejection, Relationships, Uncategorized|Comments Off

What if They Don’t Like Me?

I grabbed my bag, quickly looking inside to make sure I had something to write with. I found a pen and a pencil. Then, taking a deep breath, I zipped up my bag, and hung the strap over my shoulder. I check the time, I was ten minutes early. Just enough to get coffee. I locked the car, then looking both ways, crossed the parking lot. I entered the store. Though it was quiet for a Saturday, there was a small line at the cafe. I stepped in behind a man with two small girls. One was telling him she [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-07-16T15:13:01+00:00July 22nd, 2019|Categories: Acceptance, Adulting, Courage, Fear, Friendship, Rejection, Uncategorized|2 Comments

Leadership Tip #23: Learn How to Get Back Up

I was an honor student in high school. Maybe you’ve figured that out by now. Not because I am amazing, but perhaps because I am amazingly detailed. Or at least, I try as hard as I can to be. As a kid who grew up in a good home that faced its fair share of crisis, details became very important to me. The more details I was able to keep track of, at home and at school, the more I could keep things from falling apart. Even better, the greater chance I could succeed. The thing about being an honor [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-07-11T13:54:11+00:00July 18th, 2019|Categories: Courage, Failure, Fear, Lead, Leadership, Leadership Tip, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Making Decisions, Success, Uncategorized|Comments Off

What if I Make the Wrong Choice?

This wasn’t supposed to be my story. These words found their way into my thoughts as I pulled towels out of the dryer and began folding them. A year and half into being married, at thirty years of age, I was home without a job. Each day, my most pressing responsibilities were doing laundry and making dinner. I was a stay at home wife. I never thought I’d be a stay at home wife. Even if we decided to have kids, I always pictured myself as the working mom. But now, I was what I had judged other women so [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-07-15T19:43:02+00:00July 15th, 2019|Categories: Change, Courage, Failure, Fear, grief, Hope, Making Decisions, Success, Uncategorized|Comments Off

Love Learn Lead July 11, 2019

Recently I was listening to a podcast where the guy being interviewed shared a story of a conversation he had with his wife. Their neighborhood was changing significantly from how it was when they moved there. And they were worried about their children not living close enough to nature. So casually, his wife asked, “Do you think we should move?” Within seconds, in his mind, this man went from selling his house, to selling his car because his commute would change, to getting a tractor to mow the lawn of the new farm they would buy. Some of us have [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-07-10T19:48:44+00:00July 11th, 2019|Categories: Courage, Fear, Food, Lead, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Making Decisions, Uncategorized|Comments Off

What if I don’t get it?

When I was in high school, I had a friend who applied to Harvard. Then she begged me not to tell anyone that she applied. It was a big, audacious dream that was too fragile to share. Best case scenario, if she got in, it would be this wonderful surprise for her to announce. But if she didn’t, she wouldn’t have to face the public embarrassment of not being accepted. When it comes to pursuing a goal, “What if I don’t get it?” is one of the scariest questions we can ask. Whether we’re applying to a college or to our [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-07-07T20:04:41+00:00July 8th, 2019|Categories: Adulting, Courage, Failure, Fear, Rejection, Success, Uncategorized|Comments Off

What If

They are the questions we share with our closest people, and sometimes, only utter to ourselves. They are the ones that wake us up at night, and keep us stalled at the intersections of our lives. And they begin with these two little words: “What if…” What if I apply for this job, and I don’t get it? What if I do get the job and I hate it? What if they think my idea is stupid? What if I move, but I can’t find a job? What if no one likes me? What if my friends or family disowns [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-06-28T19:59:56+00:00July 1st, 2019|Categories: Change, Courage, Fear, Making Decisions|Comments Off

Two Things Brene Brown Has Taught Me About Criticism

Growing up, there were a few circumstances that sent my family spinning into survival mode. Being the middle child, I quickly learned to cope by trying to make everyone and everything all right. Something, I couldn’t actually do. But by watching out for my younger sisters, being good, and taking care of things around the house, it seemed I was able to manage things. That somehow, for my family, I was able to lessen the blow. These skills I developed at home served me well at school too. By learning what was expected of me and performing it, I was [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-04-24T13:52:40+00:00April 25th, 2019|Categories: Courage, Failure, Fear, Good Books, Identity, Lead, Leadership, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Rejection, Uncategorized|4 Comments

How to Know It’s Time to Make a Job Change Part 1

What If…It’s Good?

Three Questions to Ask After Rejection

What if They Don’t Like Me?

Leadership Tip #23: Learn How to Get Back Up

What if I Make the Wrong Choice?

Love Learn Lead July 11, 2019

What if I don’t get it?

What If

Two Things Brene Brown Has Taught Me About Criticism

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