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What Do You Believe?

It may be strange to talk about a Christmas movie in April, but I am going to. One of my favorite Christmas movies that makes me laugh so hard, is Elf. Though I know Will Ferrell is an acquired taste, in this movie he cracks me up. Every time he starts to sing (“I’m in a store, and I’m singing…”), or attacks people for their lack of genuine Christmas spirit (“You sit on a throne of lies…”), I just can’t even. But as outlandish as this movie is, there is a part of Buddy the Elf’s story we can all [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2018-07-11T00:44:40+00:00April 16th, 2018|Categories: Change, Freedom, Health, perseverance, Uncategorized|1 Comment

Learning to Tell Your Story

There is this part in Brene Brown’s book, Rising Strong, in which she shares a phrase that helps her deal with conflict. Whether experiencing tension with her husband, friend, or a co-worker, this one phrase helps her open up a healthy and calm dialogue. The phrase begins like this: “The story I am telling myself is…” In other words, if someone does something that feels hurtful or unexpected—rather than blowing up at the person—she examines her story. You know, the story we all tell ourselves when things like this happen. Stories like “He didn’t call me, he must be mad [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2018-07-16T21:37:58+00:00March 15th, 2018|Categories: Change, Courage, Health, Lead, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Mental Health, Story, Uncategorized|Comments Off

Spring Cleaning & Telling Stories P. 2

For the first part of this post, click here. I remember the feeling of the cold medal chair frame in my hands. I was holding onto the sides of the chair as if to keep me from running out of the room. I had just told my life story. People I barely knew were weighing in. They were told to. It was part of an exercise for our counseling class; each of us had to tell our story, then share what we observed in each other’s. Not a big deal. I didn’t have a tragic or sordid past. I had gone [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2018-07-17T00:31:20+00:00March 12th, 2018|Categories: Change, Courage, Freedom, Health, Hope, Mental Health, Story|3 Comments

#metoo

“It’s not the lips of a prince that will save us, but our own lips speaking.” —Terry Tempest Williams, When Women Were Birds Over the past year, the victims of sexual assault and harassment were finally given a microphone. Where so many, for so long, were silenced, a collective sigh was felt as finally truths were spoken. Light was cast on not simply one-time offenses, but rather repeated patterns of abuse and misuse. And men who were made gods in our culture, toppled from their pedestals. Suddenly oblivious men posted on social media that it wasn’t safe to be a [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2018-07-17T00:38:05+00:00March 8th, 2018|Categories: Freedom, Health, Lead, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Story, Uncategorized|Comments Off

Spring Cleaning & Telling Stories P. 1

Though as I write these words winter is still heavy upon us, today I want to talk about spring cleaning. Despite the fact that it snowed yesterday, beautifully covering cars, trees, and grass— then rained, turning everything to slush—I want to think about warm weather. I want to think about opening windows to let fresh air and sunshine pour in. And I want to talk about the surprising things you find, when you’re cleaning for the first time in a while. Like when I used to find twenty dollar bills neatly folded in my coat pockets. Hasn’t happened in more [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2020-04-13T18:54:20+00:00March 5th, 2018|Categories: Change, Courage, Health, Mental Health, Story|1 Comment

Leadership in a Healthy Relationship

There are times in life, where we’d all rather not be the leader. These moments are the hard ones, where everything is on the line. When we’d be more comfortable with someone else making the decision, because if things go wrong, we won’t be to blame. It’s in the hardest of these moments where both people in a dating or marriage relationship don’t want to lead. Where, no matter what they believe about man’s role vs woman’s role, both would be more comfortable if the other made the decision. Yet it is in these very moments where both people need [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2018-07-17T00:57:26+00:00February 22nd, 2018|Categories: Health, Lead, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Marriage, Relationships|Comments Off

Learn: How to Find a Mentor

On Monday, I shared that mentors have made a big impact on my journey as a person and as a leader. But often, when I talk about having mentors, people express wanting to be mentored but not knowing how to get one. Or, they are under the impression that a mentor usually pursues you, which is rarely the case. The good news though, is that finding a mentor, is really not as difficult as it seems. Yes, it does involve putting ourselves out there. And it requires asking another person for help—often, a person we don’t know well. But its [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2018-07-17T01:09:12+00:00February 8th, 2018|Categories: Change, Health, Lead, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Mentoring, Success|Comments Off

Love: Podcasts to Help Start 2018 Strong

One of my favorite things to do when I am doing the dishes, cleaning, or even running, is listening to podcasts. Over the past few years, they have opened up a whole other world of possibility to me. Through listening to people’s stories of success and even failures, I have been able to change my mindset regarding the future. And I have learned some incredible things from some pretty smart people. For this reason, today, I want to share with you a few of my favorite episodes from different podcasts—all shows that I think may help you as you think [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2018-07-17T01:19:54+00:00January 25th, 2018|Categories: Change, Health, Lead, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, podcasts I love, Purpose, Routines|Comments Off

Learn: How I’m approaching change in 2018

On Monday, I shared that there are some years when making a strict New Year’s Resolution (NYR), just doesn’t work. When making a drastic change isn’t possible or perhaps, helpful. And when killing ourselves at the gym in January, isn’t the answer. For me, this year, is one of those times. If I am honest, part of the reason for this is because after the holidays, I didn’t have the mental energy to think up the best NYR for me. But also, I have a few dreams for 2018 that make it hard to set one “all in” goal, to [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2018-07-17T01:24:30+00:00January 18th, 2018|Categories: Balance, Change, discipline, Food, Health, Lead, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Routines|Comments Off

New Year, New You–Or, Keep Fighting the Good Fight

Every year around this time, the story is always the same. “New Year, New You.” All of a sudden gym parking lots are full. We buy vegetables in bulk, and sigh at the numbers on our scales. We try to figure out how much kale we can hide in a smoothie, and feel the pressure to be different. And some years, this is good. There are January’s where we need to do something drastic to help get us back on course. To give us perspective. Or, to make a real change. But then there are January’s where striving to achieve [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2018-07-17T01:27:21+00:00January 15th, 2018|Categories: Acceptance, Balance, Change, Health, Routines|Comments Off

What Do You Believe?

Learning to Tell Your Story

Spring Cleaning & Telling Stories P. 2

#metoo

Spring Cleaning & Telling Stories P. 1

Leadership in a Healthy Relationship

Learn: How to Find a Mentor

Love: Podcasts to Help Start 2018 Strong

Learn: How I’m approaching change in 2018

New Year, New You–Or, Keep Fighting the Good Fight

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