Habit Making – Page 7 – Melissa Schlies

In 2020, Climb Your Mountain

Friend, the first time I climbed a mountain, I didn’t fully know if I was going to make it. It was so BIG. A few of the people I was with, had climbed the mountain before. And as we got ready to go, they talked about how there were some really challenging spots on the way to the top. I remember listening to them and wondering, What would I do, if I couldn’t make it? I wasn’t an experienced hiker. In fact, I had only recently begun to regularly go on hikes where I lived. My adventurous side had [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2020-03-26T16:33:23+00:00January 6th, 2020|Categories: Adulting, Calling, Change, Courage, discipline, Failure, Habit Making, Start Here|Comments Off

In 2020, Start Here

The few days right after New Years are always interesting. Like geese migrating with the change of a season, some of us flock to the nearest gym, where every treadmill or elliptical machine is taken. While others of us suffer through what I like to call the Holiday Hangover. It’s that exhausted, “What just happened” feeling we get when the alarm goes off for our first day back at work. Or, getting back into our pajamas as soon as we come home from said job, because we just can’t. And sometimes, if we’re truly unlucky, the Holiday Hangover includes [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2020-03-26T16:32:23+00:00January 2nd, 2020|Categories: Adulting, Change, Habit Making, Health, Lead, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Preparation, Routines, Start Here, Uncategorized|Comments Off

Love Learn Lead November 21, 2019

Friends, it is hard to believe we are closing in on Thanksgiving already. A week from today, we will be with friends and family, eating turkey and pie. Then, a week from tomorrow, the countdown to Christmas will begin. For many of us, I know, our schedules have already begun to pick up before the Holidays. With all the busyness, in some ways, I felt a little crazy to talk about self care on the blog this month. But if you have stayed with me on this journey, I hope you have felt valued and maybe even, you’re taking me [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-11-20T20:02:50+00:00November 21st, 2019|Categories: Balance, discipline, Good Books, Habit Making, Health, Lead, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Routines, Self Care, Uncategorized|Comments Off

Three Ways to Practice Self Care This Holiday Season

“Self-comfort numbs us, weakens us, hides us; it can be soporific. But self-care awakens us, strengthens us, and emboldens us to rise.” —Sarah Bessey Ever since I read these words from Sarah, in her latest book, Miracles and Other Reasonable Things, they’ve lingered in my mind. So much so that I am sharing them here on the blog for the second time this month. Never have I heard someone so clearly delineate the difference between self-comfort and self-care. For much of my life, I’ve engaged in self-comfort, while believing self-care was selfish. Only I didn’t realize the damage all my [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-11-13T16:07:49+00:00November 14th, 2019|Categories: Balance, Christmas, discipline, Habit Making, Health, Lead, Learn, Love Learn Lead, Self Care, Uncategorized|Comments Off

How to Choose Self Care Over Self Comfort

A number of years ago, I sat in a coffee shop with a person I was mentoring. And as I often do, I asked her what it looked like to take care of herself in the busy season she was currently living. Her response was something like: “I think I need to practice self care more. I need to make time to get weekly massages and sit in the hot tub.” Right away, as I tried to wipe a look of surprise from my face, I had two thoughts: One, she may have had self care figured out way more [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-11-05T21:24:11+00:00November 7th, 2019|Categories: #mybodyhas, Habit Making, Health, Lead, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Preparation, Self Care, Uncategorized|Comments Off

How to Focus on Your Lane & Avoid Comparison

Every now and then, I meet someone who’s never struggled with comparison or insecurity. Or at least, they’re very good at pretending. There have been times where I’ve admitted to such a person that I’ve struggled with an insecurity or wanting to be like someone else, either in my present or my past, and only received a blank look. Other times, I’ve received a confused expression like “Why would you worry about that?” My response is usually to drop it like I haven’t made any confession at all, and move on. When inside I am always thinking, “I don’t know [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-10-24T00:39:38+00:00October 24th, 2019|Categories: comparison, Declutter Your Mind, Habit Making, Health, Lead, Leadership, Learn, Life Coaching, Love, Love Learn Lead, Mental Health, Self Care, Success, Uncategorized|Comments Off

Five Changes I Wish I’d Made In My Twenties

Life is hard. There are dreams or goals we work for without any guarantee that they will ever happen. There are difficult family relationships for us to navigate. Friendships that never last as long as we’d like. Physical or mental ailments or allergies that wear us down or threaten to hold us back. And don’t even get me started on dating or marriage. Only sometimes, we are so focused on these things that we can’t see our biggest obstacle to living healthier and more joyful lives—is ourselves. Where some of our everyday behaviors are tripping us up. And possibly, even [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-08-30T19:50:23+00:00September 12th, 2019|Categories: Adulting, Balance, Change, Habit Making, Health, Lead, Leadership, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Mental Health, Preparation|1 Comment

Love Learn Lead September 5, 2019

Has someone close to you ever said something about you that was hard to hear? The first time this happens it is annoying or frustrating, but because it’s the first time, you can brush it off. Only, if they say it again, or someone else close to you says the same thing in a totally unrelated situation, it’s hard to ignore. It’s not comfortable when people know us. When they know not just the good parts, but also the parts of us we wish weren’t true. In this way, our loved ones are mirrors we often don’t want to look [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-08-30T19:30:01+00:00September 5th, 2019|Categories: Balance, Change, Friendship, Habit Making, Leadership, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead|Comments Off

On Labor Day

“The dictionary is the only place that success comes before work. Hard work is the price we must pay for success.” — Vince Lombardi In our culture, an interesting thing has happened since the evolution of the internet and the creation of reality TV: Our understanding of success has changed. Our definition of this word has shifted to include those who are “Insta famous.” And in this shift we’ve lost our ability to comprehend how much work true and lasting success requires. Because we’ve found all the glitter and glam of fame enticing, we’ve believed that the internet can short-circuit [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-08-30T19:19:39+00:00September 2nd, 2019|Categories: Freedom, Habit Making, perseverance, Success|Comments Off

Five Tools That Make My Life Better—& May Make Your’s Better Too!

When we got married, Tony had these two identical kitchen knives. As they cut better than any knives I owned, they became our go-to for making dinner. We both love to cook, especially together. So after nine years of marriage, these knives have become well-worn. Recently, after some frustrating incidents of trying to cut steak or even normal raw potatoes, it became clear that we needed some new knives. Tony found some online, and they were delivered to our door. Then about a week later, I went to make a meal that involved chopping a lot of vegetables. As I [...]

By Melissa Schlies|2019-08-17T20:04:25+00:00August 29th, 2019|Categories: Adulting, Balance, Declutter Your Mind, Habit Making, Health, Lead, Learn, Love, Love Learn Lead, Success, Uncategorized|Comments Off

In 2020, Climb Your Mountain

In 2020, Start Here

Love Learn Lead November 21, 2019

Three Ways to Practice Self Care This Holiday Season

How to Choose Self Care Over Self Comfort

How to Focus on Your Lane & Avoid Comparison

Five Changes I Wish I’d Made In My Twenties

Love Learn Lead September 5, 2019

On Labor Day

Five Tools That Make My Life Better—& May Make Your’s Better Too!

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